Mimi Rothschild Brings You “God Has Trouble With His Children Too”
by Shannon Brendlinger
Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.-Ephesians 6:1
There have been times at night that I would pray over one of my four children. One reason would be because I had a confrontation of some sort with them that day, another would be because I felt they had disobeyed God in someway. The prayers I have for them come deep from in my heart more, than anything I pray for. I felt I was being a bad mother and I would pray for guidance and forgiveness in the way I handled a situation with them. The bible says in James 1:9, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. I find it hard to become slow to anger when my child has given me nothing but attitude that day! Slow to speak well, does, Get to your room now, through clenched teeth count? Listening is not on the top of my head when my thirteen old is trying to explain why she should get her belly button pierced! I thought all the Sunday school and youth programs would tell them that, God does not want them to put in any holes in their body?
Psalm 22:10 says, From birth I was cast upon you; from my mothers womb you have been my God. When our children are first born they are born with no sense of what others around them need; they are selfish but God was still with them because he knew they had to be taught by their mother and father. He gave us many directions in the bible for showing our children the way to him. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Deuteronomy 6:5-8. The only thing is he gave them free will just has he has given us our free will. We can only do as much as we can and pray that God will open their hearts and show them the way. We also have to pray they will want to be shown the path of righteousness. Jesus said in Mark 10:14, let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. All Jesus was asking for was to; let them come to him, to not hinder any of their efforts. He was not saying, You parents better make sure your kids come to me or it is your entire fault! No, he just wants us to let them know they have that choice and what the choice of coming to him means.
When my oldest was born I was not an active Christian. I believed there was a God and he had a son who died on the cross for our sins. I tried to go to church and thought it was the most boring thing ever. I was only seventeen when my oldest was born. I was still a child with no direction and a bad attitude. My parents did not bring me up in a Godly home; it was far from it. I swore a lot, I did not have respect for my self or others. All in all I was heading hand in hand with Satan down his pleasurable path for me. I was also taking someone along; my daughter. A little over three years and a lot of bad moves I was also taking my second child right with me.
It was not until my third child and a marriage later that God opened my eyes and started showing me the right path, the path that lead to Jesus. Slowly I became closer to the Lord and I learned more than I ever knew about being a child of God. I faded away and I came back strong and faded again and came back even stronger. My fourth child is now three-years-old and I am back on the righteous path. I am a stronger more mature Christian than I ever was and I know I am growing everyday but there was that time when God had trouble with me too. Sometimes I step off the right path now but he is there so softly guide me back. I am his child and he knows that I am not perfect and knows I will not be without sin until the day he comes back for me. He gave me his son so my sins can be washed away and he gave me the bible so I try not to have so many to be washed away.
I knew it would be hard on my oldest child, to just throw her into a life she was not familiar with. I knew she would feel hurt and confused. I stopped a lot of things I once let her do and there were many times she cried and looked at me like I was from another planet. She lead a unholy life until the age of eight or nine and then she was confused when I would change from week to week or month to month on what I expected from her and the rest of my family. Then when she was twelve I changed big time and started showing my family the way of God. I did a total 360 on them and have been, for the most part, steady now. Jeanette Lockerbie from the Women Devotional Bible wrote, “Our children-and we ourselves-are never safer, or more blessed, than in the place of God’s appointment, meaning, we are right where God wants us to be. No matter what the situation, God has his plans for us and our children, all wrote out in his book of ours and our children lives.
He knows the troubles we have with our children because he has the same troubles from us. He gives us the same lessons from the bible that we teach to our kids too. “Listen to your father, who gave you life and do not despise your mother when she is old. Buy the truth and do not sell it; get wisdom, discipline and understanding. The father of a righteous man has great joy; he who has a wise son delights in him. May your father and mother be glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice! -Proverbs 23:22-25. Proverbs 31:6 says, “Train a child in the way we should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. All we can do is show our children the rights way, pray they take it and thank God when they finally do!
Christian mothers and fathers all over the world have some trouble with their kids rebelling against Gods word. They want to listen to inappropriate music; they want to wear clothing that is to revealing or mark their bodies with holes (besides the ears) and tattoo’s. Some of us parent’s even have to unfortunately, deal with drug or alcohol use. We get down on our knees every night and pray for God to change them. We beg and plead, cry and even scream to him, why does my child have to do these sinful things? Titus 2:7-8 states, “In everything set them (children) a good example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Father, do not exasperate your children; instead bring them up in the training of the Lord. Exasperate means: to irritate or anger. God is slow to anger at us, so should we be to our children also. When they fall down we need to pick them back up, just as Jesus does for us. We need to show them the right way, just as God shows us. We need to forgive them, just as the Lord has forgiven us.
3 John: 4 says, “I have to greater joy than to hear my children are walking in the truth. If you as a parent are walking in Gods truth and you show it day by day your children will catch on. It might not be until they have made some wrong choices but one day they will understand the truth that you are walking in and they will walk right beside you. Until then keep praying for them and loving them just the way God made them and the way he loves you.